How To Love One Another Holy
There has been a question about how to Love so powerfully that all Love becomes the same, great, sacred Love. How to Love one another so truly that it is as if we are at the altar taking vows to forever hold and welcome each other into infinite Love? How do we get to the point that our vow is so great that it is as if each man, woman and child is mother, father, husband, wife, sister, brother, teacher, student, and above all God to each other?
In other words, how do we Love one another Holy?
This enormous question, perhaps the enormous question of how to love, spiritual and holy, while we are walking on the Earth is so multifaceted that it can be the lesson of our life.
Fortunately, each of you, each of us, is there to be an answer, to be a support as we walk along the lessons of life and learn again and again how to Love. The more we open to the great lesson of how we can Love each other, the more we are presented with people in our lives who teach us how to Love. In the next few entries, I am going to celebrate some of the people in my life who have taught me about Love.
I invite you to come play with me as we go on this fanciful ride and to meet some of these daring, courageous, loving beings, who have been with me on the path as spiritual teachers and learners, my inspirations.
Rachel, That All Love IS the Same Love
The next time you think you are having a hard time, and you may be, try remembering this story of my friend Rachel and the two lessons she recently taught me. Rachel has four children between the ages of 3 and 11. She is a single parent and works as an assistant manager at a coffee shop. She cares for her mother, who has a disability that keeps prevents her from working. When Rachel was a teenager, a car accident shattered her foot. Her job keeps her on her feet, so she often works in pain, yet Rachel is one of the most optimistic people I know.
Rachel has taught me about forgiveness and compassion in many ways. She has reminded me that we are all in a journey together, all learning together and all here to inspire each other to grow. She takes time with people. She has patience. People don’t always see how patient she is because they aren’t aware of the whole picture of her life, every little facet of what she’s juggling and that she often does her best to attend to the people around her in kindness, even those who are vexing her.
She has shown me both how easy it is to keep going and how hard. Each day we can do it with compassion and forgiveness or we can choose to get angry. Rachel makes some miraculous choices. Here is one that I think would benefit all of us who have gone through, or are going through divorces, ends of relationships, dealing with ex-husbands or wives over custody or day to day dealing with how to raise kids after a divorce or even letting go after a relationship ends.
Instead of being angry at the choices her ex-husband is making that impact her and her children, she told me, “I wish he would stop harming himself.” It was a very pure and kind wish, the kind of wish we could all learn to make for one another when we are in an argument or difficult situation of any kind, but particularly when it is a super-charged one. What a huge gift we can give another, if we simply stop complaining about another person’s short-comings, stop wishing another person harm or ill-will and wish them Well.
Rachel showed me that no matter what someone has done or is doing, we can turn and simply wish the best for them, wish for their greatest good, without spite or superiority. She reminded me that each of us, no matter what the circumstances, always have the choice to be Good. Sometimes we think that we will need a large event, a personal trial of Hercules (at least one, if not twelve labors) to prove we can stick to our morals. Rachel reminded me that in our day to day, often hardest dealing with others, we have the perfect opportunity to move from feelings of anger and hate to compassion and Love. She showed me how we are all models of this for one another, if we take the time to see that we are each other’s teachers.
Rachel has beautiful grey-green eyes that shine and she keeps a song in her heart. She sings to keep her spirit up. The other day she told me she was singing a country Love song when she looked down at her eldest daughter who was sitting on the edge of the coffee table. Her daughter had disobeyed the night before and was grounded. Rachel knew she really should be mad at her daughter. But, when she looked at her child, instead, she realized that the Love she’d been looking for in a man, in the song she was singing, was right there, looking up at her.
Rachel told me about this in an easy conversation and her eyes have never looked so beautiful as they did in that moment. I want the look I saw in her eyes to be remembered in Heaven because it could melt the stars. I wish we could all see it when Love comes to Earth and reflect back to each other how grateful we are when we see the presence of Heaven in each other’s eyes.
How great the lesson that all Love is one Love. Sometimes we meditate on that lesson for years, we can even try so hard to find it that we get blinded by that answer that is right in front of us. Rachel reminded me that the answer is right here, each time our hearts get opened, often by surprise.
Thank you, Rachel.
This song is for you.
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